Earlier this week, my husband went into work before the kids woke up. Which mean that I single-parented. I’m not good at that. (Shout out to all of you who do this EVERY DAY).
I get so discouraged when I leave the house with stuff undone (i.e. not ready for the evening when we return). I pulled out of our driveway feeling frustrated about what didn’t get done. But then it occurred to me to think about what did. So, I started making a mental list, which became an actual list.
From 5:00AM-8:15AM, I did the following:
- Snuggled hubby (TMI???)
- Brushed teeth
- Made bed
- Took vitamins
- Drank glass of lemon water
- Did devotions
- Checked Email
- Created game plan to help a friend declutter
- Did hair & makeup
- Packed my lunch
- Emptied dishwasher
- Snuggled kiddos
- Made breakfast
- Cleaned up 2 spills (salt & raisins)
- Comforted a child after she fell off of her chair
- Comforted said child’s sibling because he got his Dad’s empathy and struggles big time to see others hurting
- Got 2 children dressed – in seasonally appropriate attire
- Brushed 2 children’s teeth
- Monitored 2 children’s making of their beds
- Remembered to pack children’s blankets for nap at day care
This list is not by way of bragging.
It is the tool that I use to give myself perspective.
I left the house focused on the dirty dishes that covered the counter, and underneath those dishes is a pile of crumbs. Below those counters are floors filled with crumbs. And next to those counters are pans with scrambled egg remnants that are going to be a bugger to scrub off.
It’s so easy (for me) to focus on what isn’t done. But there are days when I need to give myself some grace and change my perspective. I’m learning to have eyes to see what should be celebrated and not just what should be fixed.