Family Bucket Lists became a thing in our home two years ago as a way to be intentional about creating memories with our family. You can read about it here (but, please, overlook the terrible quality of the photos – I hadn’t yet discovered photo editing).
I learned the valuable lesson to not become overwhelmed by making sure the list got done and thinking of the list as a resource of things to do when we have open days. It’s a good thing that I learned that lesson because there were a LOT of items on the Christenson Family Summer 2017 Bucket List that did not get done.
Ideas for this summer’s list started in May. I had great intentions of making the list all cute and wall-hanging worthy. But I’m not artsy. And doing that meant being artsy and, more importantly, carving out the time it would take to make it perfect. I didn’t use that word. Perfect. But that’s what I wanted. That’s what I was envisioning. And that’s why the list wasn’t done until the middle of July. It took me that long to finally admit that I was placing a level of importance on something that I didn’t need to.
The point of making a Family Bucket List is to be intentional about the fun things we want to do together. That’s it. Not to look perfect doing it. So I bit the bullet and pulled out two pieces of poster board. I drew imperfect (and crooked) block letters. Then I put them on the table and asked the kids to help me color the boards. I then wrote our bucket list items on post-its and the kids and read each one and decided which board each post-it went on. It took the whole morning. And it was a blast. And the kids loved the board. When they looked at it, they saw something they created and were part of. When I looked at it, I saw the joy the comes in celebrating all that I have and letting go of what is unattainable. And crooked, imperfect block letters.
We went through the summer and as we crossed items off the list, I took the corresponding post-it, wrote the date it was completed on the back and moved it to the “Nailed It” board.
As summer came to a close, it became very apparent that there would be post-it’s left on the “Let’s Do This!” board when summer was over. And that’s okay. A few of them can be done in the fall, so they will get moved to next season’s Bucket List. The others get thrown away.
At the end of summer, I took the dated post-its off of the “Nailed It!” board and put them in our photos/keepsakes box as a reference for when I make our family album for the year. I don’t have photos of all of the events, but having the dates on the post-its will help my old brain remember when we did each activity.
We have since created our Christenson Family Fall 2017 Bucket List and it’s a blank slate. It’s also the nearing the end of September and there isn’t a single post-it that has moved from the “Let’s Do This!” board to the “Nailed It!” board. But that’s okay……